Fighting During the Holidays

Are you dreading seeing that one family member you can’t stand? Preparing to go toe-to-toe with loved ones on all the invasive questions you just know they’re going to ask? Have to come clean to your partner about some excessive holiday spending?

The holidays are stressful, y’all. Though we often claim that this is a season of cheer, joy, gratitude, and giving, the reality is often long lines, delayed traffic, crowds, financial burdens, and uncomfortable conversations with family and friends. Maybe you’ve put off having difficult or delicate conversations and are now realizing how challenging it will be to continue tip-toeing around them during the holidays. Maybe you’re just ready to move past conflict. Or maybe you want to take this time to choose a healthier approach to the conflicts you may have with a loved one. In this post I’ll provide some tips for navigating conflict during the holidays.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce

Respond, don’t react.

There are several different ways to move from a reaction, which is often a knee-jerk impulsive statement or action, to a response which is more thoughtful.